Belonging to a book club is a splendid way to increase one’s reading, meet new people – and, if we’re not careful, add inches to the waistline. I hosted our community’s monthly gathering recently. Reading the book was the easy part. Deciding what to serve was the challenge.
Some interesting books have graced our annual lists, but in my opinion a few might just as easily have been passed over. Because most of the women are wives and mothers, a majority of the books are what I would describe as domestic novels, Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn being a good example. It wasn’t quite my cup of tea, but the fact that it has been made into a major motion picture proves that it hit its target with readers. And at least one from the 2015 list, Big Little Lies, has been optioned for a TV movie starring Nicole Kidman and Reese Witherspoon.
In between book club assignments, I sandwich in books, often non-fiction, that probably wouldn't make the book club cut because of length, subject matter, or because there just isn’t time to read everything.
Most of us who are old enough remember where we were when John F. Kennedy was shot and what we were doing at 8:45 a.m. on September 11, 2001. And we might remember where we were when thirty-three Chilean miners who had been trapped underground from August 5th to October 13th, 2010 were rescued, one by one, on live television, to worldwide rejoicing.
- In Deep Down Dark (2014) Héctor Tobar describes in gripping detail the ordeal of thirty-three men trapped three miles underground for sixty-nine days in the Copiapó copper-gold mine northern Chile with little food, little water and even less hope. He recounts not only their terrifying ordeal, the helplessness of their loved ones, but the herculean efforts waged to rescue them. Mammoth drilling equipment was brought from around the world, including a Schramm rotary drill from West Chester, Pennsylvania.
The miracle that not one miner was lost demonstrates the power of the men's solidarity and attests to the fact that we don't know what physical and mental privates we can bear until we are tested.
- For those of you who are fascinated by things culinary and also like a good yarn, you will enjoy The Sharper Your Knife the Less You Cry (2007) by Kathleen Flinn. Although Flinn is a journalist who has written for a long list of publications, her true love is cooking. In The Sharper Your Knife the Less You Cry, she describes the rigors of earning her diploma from the world famous Cordon Bleu cooking school in Paris.
This true story earned her the 2012 award for Best Book in the Non-Fiction Autobiography/Memoir category from the American Society of Journalists and Authors. The beauty of Flinn’s writing is its accessibility and the way she is able to weave her real life into the story of her journey from adequate cook to master chef. And there is a sprinkling of delectable-sounding recipes that sound doable, even by me.
- Although as a classical musician I’ve helped provide much music for ballet, I’ve never had a depth of understanding of the art. But that changed somewhat when I read Misty Copeland’s Life in Motion: An Unlikely Ballerina (2014). Recently profiled on CBS “Sunday Morning,” Misty Copeland is a principal soloist with the American Ballet Theater, which has been designated by Congress as America’s National Ballet company just as the Bolshoi is Russia’s ballet company.
And by the way: Misty Copeland happens to be African American, and although her ascent to stardom contains many stereotypical elements of childhood deprivation, her rise was especially challenging as she and her four siblings, each by a different father, were raised by a beautiful but unstable mother who would pick up and drag the family to a new town at the drop of a hat.
That Misty was able to pursue her dream and reach the pinnacle of classical dance – despite the turmoil swirling around her – in a world where ballerinas are supposed to be fair of hair and fair of skin, is nothing short of miraculous.
- Otto and Elise Hampel, a working class couple in Berlin, were not much interested in politics until Elise learned that her brother had fallen to the Nazis in France. It was then that she and her husband began committing acts of civil disobedience. Every Man Dies Alone (1947), by Hans Fallada, is a fictionalized account of their story based on their Gestapo files.
When a friend mentioned she was reading a book that involved Nazis, my reaction was that I’m just about “up to here” with tales of Nazi cruelty. But there was something in her description that impelled me to read the Kindle sample and eventually the entire book.
Not translated into English until 2009, Every Man Dies Alone, which the author wrote in twenty-three days, became a surprise best seller in the UK and the US and was described by the famed writer, chemist and Holocaust survivor Primo Levi as “a phenomenon,” and "the greatest book ever written about German resistance to the Nazis."
It is a fascinating and sobering read.
By the time you read this the 2015 Super Bowl will be history and it's possible you might have forgotten who the Pittsburgh Steelers are.
Unlikely as it would have seemed mid season, we were deluded again into thinking that a miracle could occur. And it nearly did. Who would have thought at the conclusion of the November 30th loss to the New Orleans Saints, after a season of hits and misses, illnesses, injuries and, oddest of all, a desertion*, that the team would pull off something most unlikely, win four games in a row – the last of the season’s games?
By the end of December the excitement was palpable in Yinzertahn and beyond. Could we possibly be contenders? If these guys had the stuff to make it happen, could we win our seventh Super Bowl in 2015?
It was during that period that Ben Roethlisberger was on his way to becoming deified via his record-setting yardage and taking with him into the pantheon the sensational receivers Le’Veon Bell and season MVP Antonio Brown. But alas, Ben buckled.
It’s a beautiful thing to see a city, in the midst of winter, in the wake of holiday mayhem, have something left to cheer about, to brighten their days with anticipation. Pittsburgh takes its sports seriously and none more seriously than Steelers fans who raid the family finances to follow the team all over the country. There is a sea of black and gold from coast to coast.
I have written before about how resistant I had always been to getting involved with football, probably because the entire sporting culture, in my mother’s opinion, was cringeworthy. I took her cue and shared her repugnance.
But my husband enjoys it and, loving spouse that I am, I decided to try to learn something about the game, although the formations and plays might as well be written out for me in Sanskrit. To me it just looks like a bunch of guys running around with not much purpose other than to knock each other down. That’s my level of sophistication although, to be truthful, I feel kind of hip discussing the previous weekend’s game with anyone who’ll listen, although they’re probably thinking to themselves, “She seems to think she knows what she’s talking about.”
Knowledgeable or not, I will never understand how those human bodies can hit the ground and each other with such force and not become permanently disabled. I know how it felt when I took a little tumble in Marshall’s parking lot a few months ago.
Thoughtful people probably shouldn’t approve of football for all its injuries and scandals, and for the way it graduates young men from colleges where they learn little besides game plays because, as old Shakespeare wrote, “the play’s the thing.” Football isn’t “Hamlet,” but you get my drift.
The day after the post-season loss I took myself to the Giant Eagle and wondered how early the stock-boys had to arrive to dismantle the display of franchise paraphernalia and find something to put in its place.
Sad day, but you know what? I commented on the game to the slightly challenged kid restocking the produce bins. He and I agreed that the loss didn’t affect our lives one bit. He said, “I ain’t losin’ any money over it.” I couldn’t have said it better myself.
But what about the businesses that will be stung by the Steelers’ flaming out, how do they prepare for that possibility? To my surprise I learned that the local purveyors of Steeler paraphernalia don’t miss a beat. Their business might be a little slower the day after such a loss, but they tell me that people buy Terrible Towels and everything else associated therewith all year long. What’s on these retailers minds now is Valentine’s Day.
And to prevent warehouses filled with losing teams’ sweatshirts, T-shirts and other gear from being resold on the American market, the teams, through an agreement with the philanthropic organization World Vision, send the merchandise to Third World countries. And of course, since we love to complain about everything, there are those who feel that these donations are depriving the Third World merchants from making a living.
Whatever the case, here we are, huddled in the frigid belly of winter, having survived Deflategate, picked a team to root for, and experienced the grand spectacle that is the Super Bowl. But our team wasn’t playing. That’s for next year.
There’s always next year.
*In case your memory is shorter than mine, on November 17th Steelers running back LeGarrette Blount decided he wasn’t being sufficiently used by the Steelers, and he walked off in the middle of the game. He was dumped by the Steelers – and three days later picked up by the New England Patriots, from where he had come. The punishment didn’t exactly fit the crime, and with good reason. In the 45-7 playoff blowout between New England and Indianapolis he set a Patriots’ postseason record with 30 carries and ran for 148 yards and three touchdowns. Any regrets in Steelerville?
A couple of years ago I was diagnosed with Dry Eye Syndrome. I am one of thirty percent of adult Americans who suffer from some degree of dry eye. Maybe you’re one of them.
The first indication that something might be amiss was that my eyes would burn when we were watching television in the evening. When I described this symptom to the doctor he told me that I have Dry Eye Syndrome. I hadn’t known that dry eye is an actual condition brought about when the eyes are not producing enough tears. There are glands in the eyelids that if not working properly prevent the tear-making process from working as it should.
The first thing the doctor did was to put punctal plugs into the corner ducts of my eyes so that what tears were produced wouldn’t drain out as quickly. That might sound like an excruciating procedure, but I guarantee you, I felt next to nothing. Unfortunately, those little suckers didn’t stay in my eyes for long. Not sure if it was because of something I did, such as rubbing my eyes, or if it’s a predictable occurrence.
I was then sent home to begin a long and tortuous – not torturous – regimen that included lots of eye drops, six to eight glasses of water a day, four fish oil capsules, hot compresses, and the use of Restasis twice a day.
Restasis is an extremely expensive medication in part because the manufacturer, Allergan, has to ante up buckets of money for those TV commercials, the one featuring a female doctor with stunningly blue eyes, and also because Restasis is the only medication of its kind. Without insurance my prescription would cost over a thousand dollars. Even with help from my trusty insurance company I pay a scary $126.
The first time I tried Restasis it didn’t seem to be doing anything. So I didn’t refill the prescription. The doctor mentioned it again, telling me that it takes “a while” to work. So I agreed to try it again.
But the next visit to the doctor didn’t show much improvement. Was it because I was pursuing the regimen half-heartedly? Perhaps so and I resolved to follow it to the letter, except for the eight glasses of water a day, which you and I both know is not easy to do, especially if you’re planning to leave the house.
I reported to the doctor that the microwavable eye pads weren’t staying hot the desired fifteen minutes, so he suggested I use a sock filled with rice. What a novel idea. It works although I’ve probably overheated my eyeballs on occasion.
The reason I’m telling you all of this is because, in the face of such a rigorous course of treatment I felt that I still didn’t really understand why I was doing all these things. So I downloaded one of many available books, Dry Eye Remedy, by Robert Latkany, which explains in detail what dry eye is and what the treatments accomplish. I learned what causes dry eye, what type of person is most susceptible, and perhaps most enlightening, what Restasis is supposed to do and why it’s so bloody expensive.
When I went back to the doctor I wanted him to know that I had a better understanding of why I have to drink the water, take the fish oil, use the hot compresses and use the Restasis.
When I told him I had read a book about dry eye, he asked, incredulously, “There’s a book about dry eye? Who would read a book about dry eye?”
“It couldn’t be a best seller.”
“Maybe not, but there are at least four books about dry eye, so there must be quite a few people interested in learning more about it.”
“Maybe I should write one,” which I interpreted as meaning that anything he might write on the topic would be superior. Maybe so.
Is it strange for me to read a book about dry eye? I don’t think so, but the doctor found it highly amusing. I suggested that he could entertain his wife at the dinner table by telling her about this eccentric patient who read a book about dry eye.
Maybe I’m naïve, but it seems to me that a doctor would appreciate a patient trying to learn more about his or her condition. But mine must have felt that my reading suggested that I could learn more about dry eye than I did from him. That’s true. I did. For one thing, his revolving door practice is so busy that he doesn’t have half an hour to explain the intricacies of their condition to each patient.
I’m convinced that dry eye is caused by factors that are difficult to eliminate from one’s life including antihistamines, which include not only allergy and cold medications but also heartburn medications such as Zantac and Tagamet, alcoholic beverages, especially wine, and dry air. I’m usually an optimist but I sense that to some degree of dry eye will be with me forever. But as long as I can see, if a little dryness is the worst I have to put up with, I’ll consider myself lucky.
Awful. At least that’s how I felt about a photo of myself published in a local newsletter a while back. Upon expressing dismay to the lady who selected the photo, which she took with her cell phone, she said, “I think you look beautiful.” In retrospect, what could I have expected from a cell phone?
It’s obvious that she and I were seeing the picture with different eyes, which is a stark reminder that we cannot see ourselves as others see us.
How often are you pleased with a photo of yourself? Probably not very often. That snapshot taken in a nanosecond, in mid-sentence, mid-frown, or mid-guffaw can ruin your day.
For years I wouldn’t smile for a photo and didn’t realize why until a new dentist asked me if I’d be interested in having two little gaps in my teeth filled in. I was interested, had the procedure done, and when I saw a photograph with my “new” teeth it dawned on me why I had been reluctant to smile for so long.
We all think we know what we look like, and our brains have a magical way of convincing us that we look good. So a photo can be a shock when we behold our crepey necks, our double chins, laugh lines and wrinkles, and wonder, “Oh dear. Who is that person?” because when we look in a mirror we see what we want to see, not what’s really there. I don’t examine my neck when I’m applying makeup and mascara.
In the middle of a photo session a couple of decades ago I ran for the Scotch Tape and tried to pull the sides of my face back to smooth out my laugh lines. Thinking back, it was a sweetly desperate thing to do and I’d be overjoyed if I looked now the way I looked that day.
Since then I willingly confess that I’ve had a couple of needles filled with chemicals injected into my face to modify a few creases and folds and I’ll tell you the needles aren’t nearly as painful as the bill. Peeling off a few years ain’t cheap.
As for makeup, isn’t it amazing what it can do when applied by a professional? We all love Oprah but can agree that Oprah, in her natural state, is no beauty. But by the time the makeup artists and hair stylists have worked their wizardry on her, she’s downright gorgeous. Think of all those covers of “O” magazine.
When it comes to enhancement, women have it all over men. Male performers can get away with wearing a layer of makeup and hair pieces, but if the man who lives next door showed up at your house wearing blush, mascara, and a toupee, you might back away, and then maybe run away. Men are perfectly free to avail themselves of Botox and other cosmetic procedures just as women are, but it’s my impression that most men think they look great just the way they are. That’s pretty obvious at Weight Watchers meetings where men are in short supply.
Much of our displeasure with the way we look in photos is simply because they remind us that we’re aging. I forget that I look kind of “up there” until I’m running my daily errands and am treated with unexpected solicitude because, although I feel perfectly capable, to others I must appear slightly diminished in mind and body.
In Samuel Barber’s opera Vanessa, the heroine covers all of the mirrors in her house so that she will not have to watch herself aging as she awaits the return of her former lover. But you won’t find any covered mirrors in my house. After all, when I look in the mirror I see a thirty year old.
There was a recent article in the morning paper by a woman who wrote that after she turned sixty she stopped worrying about her attire because beyond a certain age a woman becomes invisible. I couldn’t disagree more.
I might be invisible to certain males of the species to whom I’d just as soon not be visible, but I doubt if I’m invisible to the people who really count – other women. Around them I want to look good. And I dread the day when I no longer care about what I wore to my last meeting or luncheon for fear of being seen in the same outfit. Even though my husband says, “Who in the world would remember what you wore the last time?” I figure some might, and I’m not ready to take the risk.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to Chico’s.
This piece is narrow in scope. But wherever you live you've no doubt had to endure similar annoyances.
During the past few months, despite being spared the paralyzing snow and ice storms experienced in other parts of the country, Pittsburgh area motorists, because of road construction, have been presented with more than the usual number of challenges when it comes to driving from Point A to Point B.
Even though these disruptions are frustrating, we have to put up with them and have faith that the use of our tax dollars will have outcomes that make our suffering worthwhile.
We all remember the tangle that was the Liberty Tunnel-Route 51 intersection. You had the feeling you could complete a novel before the light turned green releasing you from the buildup of noxious fumes. That nightmare is long past and the resulting reconfiguration is an engineering marvel.
We thought it would never happen, but on November 17th, after six years of major disruptions, the reconstruction of Route 28, from North Side to Millvale, finally came to an end. It was such an occasion for rejoicing that the governor came for the ribbon cutting.
On any given day, when we least expect it, up pop signs that read “WORK ZONE," “ROAD CLOSED,” “STOP” or “SLOW,” making us late for work, school, doctors’ appointments, and Bingo.
It’s a good idea to have the phone number of every destination one plans to visit if punctuality is a factor. I keep snacks in my car and don’t ingest much liquid before I leave home. A teller at the Citizens Bank in Settler’s Ridge told me she had spent two hours the previous night waiting for a tie-up on the inbound Parkway West to dissolve.
And speaking of the Parkway West, the “WORK ZONE” delays are minor annoyances compared with what I call the Big Headache, better known as the “I 376 Parkway West Improvement Project,” the “you have to see it to believe it” construction that began this past summer and, except for a winter hiatus, will make our lives miserable until the summer of 2016.
In case you’ve been away for the last few months and aren’t aware of what’s going on, the PennDot web site explains: “The $3.72 million project includes milling and resurfacing I-376 between I-79 and the Fort Pitt Tunnel, bridge preservation and rehabilitation work, drainage improvements, guiderail upgrades, signing and pavement marking, concrete median barrier replacement and sign structure rehabilitation.” What it didn’t mention is the construction of high sound barriers in Greentree and Rosslyn Farms – which required the removal of hundreds of trees – to lessen the din of 24/7 traffic so that nearby residents might be able to open a window once in a while or take a nap.
The project is being staged just off the Rosslyn Farms exit. Until recently, we Rosslyn Farmers entered our peaceful community by driving past a green meadow that extended a quarter mile until the first house came into view. But now, instead of a lovely meadow, we get to drive past a squadron of earth movers, steam shovels, bulldozers, dump trucks, generators, construction trailers, and fuel tankers.
A particularly vexing feature of the project was the narrowing of a mile of lanes near Carnegie in which only the drivers of Mini Coopers or Smart Cars could feel confident. This lane-shrinkage brought with it the expected number of accidents when drivers became unhinged and decided to take a chunk out of a concrete barrier – or another vehicle.
All of the ramps into and out of the city of Carnegie were closed for several months, which had me wondering: Considering the abundance of publicity Carnegie has been getting lately because of the opening of new restaurants and a wealth of shows and activities at the Carnegie Carnegie (Library and Music Hall), what the good people of Carnegie were thinking about all of this. Nothing good, I can assure you.
But yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus, and he brought us an early Christmas treat. Beginning November 24th all of the ramps were opened and the lanes returned to their normal width. The work was suspended until next March. Hallelujah!
Just when we thought all was lost, that we were condemned to an eternity of inconvenience and hazards, all has been returned, like magic, to normal except for the unsightly assemblage of heavy equipment that will hibernate for the winter in Rosslyn Farms.
Winter doesn’t bring much to enjoy unless you love to ski or are one of those slightly off kilter people who just love cold weather and snow. But this year, with a jolly “Ho, ho, ho,” the man in the red suit has given us a reprieve, restored our roads, and if we happen to be going to Carnegie, we can say “Whee!” as we take the ramps off and onto the Parkway West.